Amati dan Pindah! Orang Narsisis Tidak Pernah Meminta Maaf!

Ketika saya berpikir kembali ke masa lalu (sebagai contoh), dan ketika saya melihat ke masa kini, ada beberapa konstanta, beberapa hal yang sama dalam situasi yang berbeda, selama periode waktu yang berbeda.

Jadi, bagaimana seseorang mengevaluasi keaslian persahabatan atau hubungan apa pun dari waktu ke waktu? Apa hal-hal yang dapat kita lihat yang merupakan “bendera merah” dalam hubungan sehari-hari, dan mungkin “bendera merah” dalam hubungan dalam keluarga atau rekan kerja atau bahkan di sekolah? Apa saja hal-hal kunci yang secara konsisten muncul yang dapat memperingatkan kita untuk berhati-hati, berhati-hati, menginjak ringan?

Artikel ini mungkin hanya membantu Anda dalam bidang-bidang itu, dengan topik menemukan orang-orang aman untuk berada di sekitar, menemukan orang-orang yang benar-benar tertarik pada persahabatan yang tulus, hubungan memberi dan menerima, persahabatan “dua arah”, satu dalam kedua orang. bekerja di persahabatan atau hubungan daripada hanya menjadi jenis “Aku akan mengambil semua; Anda memberi” hubungan negatif.

Pertama-tama dengarkan dan amati …

Salah satu hal pertama yang harus Anda cari adalah mencatat “orang” itu sendiri, melihat mereka, mendengarkan mereka, melihat mereka, mendengarnya, mengamati. Perhatikan bagaimana mereka bereaksi terhadap orang lain. Misalnya, jika ada seseorang yang terus-menerus memanggil nama seseorang, atau terus-menerus merendahkan orang, sadari bahwa ini bukan perilaku “terkandung”. Jika seseorang terus-menerus dan konsisten memanggil nama seseorang atau menurunkannya, kemungkinan besar, orang itu melakukannya untuk semua orang, semua orang. Pikirkan tentang itu. Jika seseorang menunjukkan kepada Anda bahwa seseorang jelek, atau berkeringat atau terlalu pendek atau terlalu tinggi atau terlalu gemuk, dan mereka selalu melakukan ini, kemungkinan besar, penelepon yang sama itu berbicara tentang Anda di belakang Anda. Apakah Anda pernah mengharapkan itu? Mungkin tidak.

Gossiper …

Di dunia sekarang ini, ada banyak orang yang bergosip tentang orang lain dan mereka melakukannya sebagai hobi, sebagai hobi. Biasanya ini adalah orang-orang yang tidak memiliki yang lebih baik untuk dilakukan. Mereka bosan dengan hidup mereka sendiri atau marah tentang situasi mereka sendiri. Jadi, mereka menggunakan waktu mereka untuk bergosip, menjatuhkan orang lain, untuk meremehkan orang lain di depan audiens yang akan mendengarkan mereka. Jadi, jika Anda mendengarkan, Anda adalah pendengar mereka.

Jangan jadi penonton!

Tapi, waspadalah, anak-anak. Anda tahu, kenyataannya adalah bahwa jika Anda adalah audiens seseorang, kemungkinan besar, pada waktu tertentu di masa depan atau bahkan di masa sekarang, Anda, audiens akan atau akan menjadi target, orang yang dibicarakan. Itulah yang sebenarnya.

Gosipper tidak mengandung gosip mereka. Orang-orang yang meremehkan orang lain kepada orang lain, biasanya akan melakukan hal yang sama tentang Anda dan teman Anda. Tunggu saja, beri waktu, dan Anda akan melihat.

Waspadalah dengan para penggosip!

Itu bendera merah pertama dalam suatu hubungan baik itu di sekolah atau di tempat kerja atau di pusat komunitas atau bahkan berlibur atau di tempat lain. Orang yang menghabiskan waktu merendahkan orang lain, biasanya orang yang sama yang juga menghabiskan waktu merendahkan Anda, dan memanggil Anda juga.

Jadi pelajaran bisa dipelajari, jangan menjadi pendengar gosip. Ketika mungkin menghindari menjadi penonton. Dan jika sang gossiper tidak belajar bahwa orang tidak ingin mendengar put down, maka buatlah diri Anda langka bagi sang gossiper.

Jangan pernah minta maaf?

Sangat mungkin, bendera merah kedua (tanda bahwa Anda tidak ingin menghabiskan banyak waktu dengan orang tertentu) mungkin tentang ketidakmampuan total seseorang untuk meminta maaf kepada seseorang ketika mereka melakukan kesalahan. Betul.

Jika seseorang telah menyakiti Anda, apakah itu fisik atau hanya verbal atau emosional, dan Anda telah mengatakan kepada orang itu bahwa mereka telah menyakiti Anda atau bahwa apa yang mereka lakukan salah, dan mereka menolak untuk mengucapkan permintaan maaf yang tulus, Anda mungkin ingin mengambil bagian selanjutnya dari hubungan itu dengan sebutir garam.

Dan mengapa? Inilah sebabnya. Jika seseorang telah menyakiti Anda, dan mereka tidak meminta maaf, itu bisa berarti hanya bahwa mereka tidak memiliki niat untuk tidak mengulangi sumpah yang sama, apa pun pelanggarannya. Jika mereka mencoba “menjelaskan” itu, atau berbicara dua kali dengan Anda dan tetap tidak meminta maaf; mereka tidak mengakui bahwa mereka salah, maka mereka tidak tulus ingin menghargai persahabatan atau hubungan Anda.

Jangan menjadi umpan!

Seseorang yang telah menyakiti Anda, baik secara tidak sengaja atau sengaja, dan yang belum meminta maaf kepada Anda, tahu bahwa Anda adalah umpan dan Anda akan menerima apa saja dari mereka. Cukup banyak bagaimana ini terjadi.

Apakah Anda benar-benar ingin orang seperti itu ada di sekitar Anda untuk waktu yang lama?

Apakah Anda senang mengetahui bahwa orang tersebut menolak untuk meminta maaf? (Kadang-kadang itu bukan pertama kalinya mereka tidak meminta maaf. Mungkin mereka telah melukai Anda sekali atau dua kali atau bahkan tiga kali sebelumnya dan tidak pernah meminta maaf?

Permintaan Maaf Salah

Dan sekarang, kita sampai pada apa yang dikenal sebagai “permintaan maaf palsu”. Permintaan maaf palsu adalah permintaan maaf yang secara verbal mengatakan kepada Anda bahwa mereka menyesal, tetapi dalam kalimat yang sama atau dalam surat yang sama, atau “dalam email yang sama, mereka” menyalahkan “Anda karena sesuatu. Jadi pada dasarnya, mereka menyalahkan Anda untuk apa yang mereka lakukan pada Anda. Dan itu meniadakan permintaan maaf mereka dan itu membuat permintaan maaf mereka menjadi permintaan maaf palsu.

Misalnya, orang itu berkata, “Saya minta maaf”, dan kemudian berkata, “Tapi Anda, ini dan itu, dan Anda seharusnya tidak melakukan ini atau itu” – dan mereka menghubungkan apa pun itu – dengan alasan mereka untuk permintaan maaf mereka. Trix untuk anak-anak! Itu benar, seperti kata kelinci, “Trik untuk anak-anak”, bukan untuk orang dewasa! Jadi ketika menyangkut orang dewasa dan ketika menyangkut permintaan maaf yang tulus, jangan bertele-tele dengan trik dan permainan kata dan permainan pikiran.

Jika Anda melihat salah satu dari bendera merah ini dalam apa yang disebut permintaan maaf, orang itu benar-benar tidak meminta maaf kepada Anda sama sekali. Apa yang mereka katakan kepada Anda adalah “Ya, saya tahu Anda membutuhkan saya untuk meminta maaf kepada Anda, jadi saya secara lisan mengatakan” maaf “kepada Anda, namun, saya akan menggunakan waktu ini, email, dll) untuk menyalahkan kamu untuk sesuatu.

Mereka menyalahkanmu?

Itu bukan permintaan maaf!

Seseorang yang dengan tulus meminta maaf, dan seseorang yang tidak berniat menyakiti Anda dengan cara yang sama lagi, tidak akan menyalahkan Anda untuk sesuatu ketika mereka meminta maaf kepada Anda. Orang yang tulus akan meminta maaf PERIODE! Betul. Orang yang tulus yang menyesal atas apa yang mereka lakukan atau atas apa yang mereka katakan, akan memberi tahu Anda bahwa mereka benar-benar menyesal, dan mereka tidak akan mengatakan apa pun tentang menyalahkan Anda atas apa pun. Dan itulah kebenarannya.

Begitu Anda mendengar orang itu meminta maaf dan pada saat yang sama, mereka menyalahkan Anda untuk sesuatu, orang itu membatalkan permintaan maaf mereka, dengan kata lain, mereka memberikan permintaan maaf yang salah.

Apakah Anda siap untuk memiliki orang seperti itu di sekitar Anda untuk waktu yang lama? Apakah Anda siap untuk memperluas energi atau persahabatan apa pun kepada orang yang akan melakukan kesalahan dan kemudian mencoba menyalahkan Anda dengan ‘permintaan maaf “mereka?

Kebanyakan orang …

Kebanyakan orang jarang melakukan sesuatu yang memerlukan permintaan maaf, jadi, artikel ini benar-benar berfokus pada individu yang langka, bahwa seseorang telah sangat melekat dalam jiwa mereka bahwa mereka tidak pernah salah, tidak pernah berbuat salah dan karena itu tidak perlu meminta maaf. Hanya sesuai dengan tagihan itu. Jadi, jangan biarkan artikel ini menjauhkan Anda dari menjalin pertemanan, tetapi biarkan saja itu membuka mata Anda ke tangan kecil di dunia ini yang terutama ada di sana untuk tidak pernah meminta maaf setelah mereka melakukan kesalahan.

Jika Anda membiarkan mata dan telinga Anda terbuka untuk dua bendera merah itu, Anda mungkin saja menghindari terjerat ke dalam jaringan seseorang yang berpotensi membahayakan Anda secara mendalam di masa depan. Lagipula, jika seseorang tidak bertanggung jawab atas apa yang mereka lakukan dan mereka terus tidak bertanggung jawab atas apa yang mereka lakukan, orang itu benar-benar tidak memiliki insentif untuk bersikap baik di masa depan.

Singkatnya, syukurlah, hanya ada beberapa orang yang akan Anda temui yang akan mengibarkan dua bendera merah itu pada Anda dan berharap Anda masih ada di sana untuk mereka, untuk menjadi audiens mereka atau menjadi teman mereka “memilikinya” .

Jadi, pergi keluar, bersenang-senang, menjadi keren, dan bertemu teman baru. Menikmati hidup! Lakukan hal-hal yang Anda sukai! Pergi ke tempat-tempat yang Anda sukai. Dan yang terpenting, bersama orang-orang yang Anda inginkan dan yang ingin bersama Anda!

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